by Jennifer Paros
In life it’s a big deal when someone says to us, “You don’t understand.” It often implies some lacking on our part, and is hard to counteract. Even if we want to understand, if we don’t we’ve got a job ahead of us, unless the other person cooperates and helps in some way. Usually the onus is placed upon the not-understanding-one, and the possibility that the other has perhaps fallen short in teaching his/her perspective is ignored.
Many who feel “not understood” will argue that they have explained, over and over, and that the other person isn’t LISTENING and/or doesn’t want to hear.
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