Make Yourself Comfortable
Hunt and Rest and Everything Will Be Okay
by Jennifer Paros
Cure sometimes, treat often, comfort always.
Our cat Charlie likes to find new places to sleep. We have a part of our living room, which has evolved into the cat area, where comfort and casual accommodations are freely offered. But Charlie is on a hunt for something different – like an office chair, under the covers of our bed, or inside a closet. Once a spot is selected, he remains dedicated to it for several weeks – until the hunt begins again. Come spring, Charlie broadens his horizons to the out of doors – sleeping on hosing, across the deteriorating wooden cover of our crawl space, in the thick of dry weeds, atop branches, under a bush. Though selective, he doesn’t seem to seek inherent comfort. Charlie pursues choice and variety, and then makes himself comfortable by relaxing wherever he is.
I would like to relax wherever I am. Sometimes, however, I can’t, because I don’t actually like where I am – physically, emotionally, or both. Being comfortable in my skin sounds good, but also feels hard to consistently achieve. It might be easier to start with how a person could make herself uncomfortable, and then reverse the recipe. In order for me to be uncomfortable in my skin, I must interfere with my own comfort. I might try unfavorably judging my experience, mentally attacking anyone, anything, or me – even in small ways. Negative judgment is a form of resistance in which I mentally push against my life. This causes the discomfort. Tension and being uncomfortable are byproducts of a contracted state of mind – thinking that pushes against. When I stop scoring things as deficits and drawbacks, I feel greater ease.
Got Your Number
by Cherie Tucker
It’s summer, so are a few easy-to-remember rules:
Spell out ALL numbers from 1 to 10 when writing and there is no need to quickly comprehend them. I tried on one of those hats, but it was too big.
My car seats only two.
They have three of the cutest children ever.
For numbers greater than 10, use figures.
They had 25 people for dinner in their tiny dining room.
He’s certainly older than 40, my dear.
It was almost 20 feet from us before we saw it!
If you are comparing numbers above and below 10, use figures for all.
He has 11 goats, 20 hens, but only 2 horses.
Obviously, figures are used when writing dates or statistics or in technical writing. Consult your project style for particulars.
Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back from Success as a Writer?
by Katherine Mayfield
Whether you’ve heard it from family, friends, or fellow writers, you’ve probably absorbed the belief that “writers don’t make much money.” Even if you strongly desire to make money from your writing, this unconscious belief can hold you back.
Yes, there are writers who make a LOT of money from their writing. Is it just luck? Or is there something more profound going on?
Maybe you’ve also heard “You create your reality with your thoughts.” When you look at your life, this statement can be hard to believe. But if we’re not consciously creating reality with our thoughts, and with chosen beliefs, then our subconscious minds are in charge, using outmoded beliefs and programmed thoughts to wreak havoc with what we’re trying to achieve.
Criticism in childhood is particularly damaging: “You’re not good enough.” “Don’t be a writer – you’ll never make any money.” “You’d better try harder if you want to succeed.” We get all kinds of negative messages – through our parents’ words, and their unspoken attitudes toward us – and we absorb them, believing them to be true. We need to reexamine these old beliefs and let go of any that aren’t serving our goals.
I remember when I first faced the process of self-publishing my memoir: the learning curve seemed huge, the road fraught with pitfalls and scams. My parents had taught me not to stick my neck out, and I had to overcome quite a few negative beliefs before I started down that road. Since then, I’ve self-published a number of books, with several more in the hopper. And I discovered that I enjoy the process along with the income.